RealTalkAJ

• A learning lesson becomes clear after it’s completed
• You feel qualified for things that wasn’t the case before having to take it
• It challenges you to put several different skills together for success
• You have to get creative (usually in areas that you’re interested in, but also get challenged)

Discovering the learning lesson behind your test in life

You’re usually able to recognize that you’re in a life test versus just a random challenge, because the tests you’re experiencing is usually a gatekeeper in a way.

So sticking with that perspective would suggest that completing this test ends up being the thing that brings you to the next phase of your life.

One of my favorite parallels for this that I feel applies really well is from a show called Naruto.

They explore the concept of climbing the ranks in order to have more privileges and opportunities within the village.

And one of the more memorable examples that parallels this pretty well is the Chunin exam that the Genin as they’re called, have to go through.

Genin are the most basic ranks.

A more real life comparison would be the same as the ranks you have in the military.

You get challenged and there’s different tests that you have to pass in order to get to the next rank. (or actually to get to the next challenge so you can earn the rank that you’re looking to achieve)

One of the best ways to gain from these experiences is reflection.

It helps uncover the message behind a painful or frustrating situation, because you’re forced to become more self-aware about what you just experienced.

This is where you have to get brutally honest with yourself and start answering the questions on if what you went through was worth it.

A movie reference that actually comes to mind is Avengers Infinity War.

At the end of that movie, Gomora asks Thanos, if what he did was worth it or specifically, what did it cost him?

And he replies with one word and it was super powerful: Everything.

Separating the things that are in your control from what you can’t during a life test is highly important.

It happens through practicing acceptance. It’s not something that everyone can do either. It’s more of a struggle for the more ambitious person.