RealTalkAJ

I’m in a conundrum of where I find myself focusing on pain.

Not just any pain though.

It’s the self-inflicted type.

Have you heard of self-deprecation?

It’s behavior that you’ll commonly see with the abused in one way or another.

I feel a special way about it because it’s one of the few things that I feel is mainly out of our control.

You can control what you do to others..

But you can’t do anything about what they do to themselves…

Why do narcissists degrade you?

A narcissist will degrade you just for maintaining their own positive self-image and feel good about themselves.

You can blame their low self esteem as the cause.

Degrading you serves as a means to maintain their perceived superiority.

Why am I so self-effacing?

I won’t lie and tell you that I already knew what it meant to be “self-effacing”

To make the long-story short it means to be extremely modest.

So I take it as being overly humble and it’s a trait that I’ve had most of my life.

I wouldn’t consider myself as extreme of a self effacing individual as what I used to be.

The reason I would say that I was that way is just luck of chance when it comes to my environment that I was born into.