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I’ll be explaining why narcissists need positive or negative emotions as supply.

Why do narcissists need positive or negative emotions as supply?

Narcissists need either positive negative emotions also known as Narcissistic supply in order to reaffirm their importance and feel good about themselves.

And also to maintain their self-esteem.

There’s a lack of self-control that they deal with when applying it to their emotions.

This actually explains why their companionship seems almost mandatory.

They yearn for feedback that’s given from the person paying them attention.

What is narcissistic supply?

Narcissistic Supply is a psychological addiction held by the narcissist.

They’ll do outrageous things to get this fill in their emotional tank so to speak.

One common thing that they’ll do is publicly or privately shame their significant other in order to feel better at the moment.

It happens at all stages of life in where adulthood financial control will commonly be taken advantage of.

In this case they’ll use their finances in order to establish and keep control over a dependent that needs their money to function.

With Narcissistic Supply they’re searching for emotional sustenance that they get from the person that chooses to remain friends with them.

They’re usually mistaken haters that befriend people that continue to serve them with positive or negative emotions.

The catch is that they don’t appreciate the possibility that their supplier might have more supply than they’ll ever have.

Wisdom suggests that a narcissist will never get enough of what they’re looking for which makes a relationship with them ultimately toxic.

What kind of supply does a narcissist need?

The kind of supply that a narcissist needs primarily is acquired through more public forms of attention.

The secondary kind is generally through attention that’s from more interpersonal relationships.

It has to be emphasized that they generally seek out the supply through attention and feel normal as a result.

Mentioned before they’ll accept positive or negative supply.

A few of the positive attention receptors they will accept are:

• Flattery
• Praise
• Adoration

These are all good supplies as experts would call them.

So traditionally it comes from people most consider to be gullible and genuinely nice people.

They’ll take what they can get and that includes feelings of fear as well.

That and related feelings of submission too.

It’s a shame disorder and what makes it ironic is that the only person who ends up feeling that way are the people who allow them to be used.

Final thoughts

These are the reasons narcissists needs either positive or negative supply from other people again:

• It makes them feel better about themself
• It boosts their own self esteem
• They lack self control and ultimately need other people in order to fill that void they’re experiencing

Everybody has a bit of narcissism in themselves but being able to check those feelings are what make the difference between the toxic ones.